Fear of Fat

Before the hello’s and hi’s and the perfect intro to this blog post, I would ask you to do something. Something for yourself. Go fetch a mirror. Whether it’s your bathroom mirror or your bedroom one or even the front camera of your phone. Please, I urge you to. 

When was the last time you looked in the mirror, admired your reflection and said thank you to the body your blessed with? When was the last time you smiled the brightest showing your sparkling white teeth and actually appreciated that beautiful one in a million smile? When was the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back, blew yourself a flying kiss and said to yourself ‘You look lovely today!’? How long has it been since you appreciated those imperfect curves that makes you, YOU? Well it’s time to do it. Just give yourself the tightest hug and tell your body, ‘ I love you’. 

We live in a world flooded by what the ideal body shape should be that women today run to fitness centres and follow crash diets to attain the so called ‘perfect shape’. We buy body shapers to tuck in that extra fat popping from our love handles in the fear of being called FAT. We drink all kinds of detox concoctions and Google out the ‘ 10 best ways to lose weight quickly’ in the hope that we might look like the Instagram stars we follow so dearly.

I agree we need to be healthy and monitor cholesterol and all other possible health hazards but not at the cost of constant concern of being dissatisfied with your body. We have littled our body so much to an extent that we choose to describe our bodies with numbers rather than words such as voluptuous, curvaceous, sexy , attractive and beautiful. We need to stop mentally body shamming ourselves and just be happy with what we’ve been given. And for a little more inspiration, I’m posting a TED Talk by Kelli Jean Drinkwater who has been my motivation for this post. Enjoy! 

TED TALK- The Fear of Fat by Kelli Jean Drinkwater


Daily Prompt: Stylish



When we speak of Indian women, a montage of vibrant fabric and intricately decorated and ornamented pictures flash by. And when we speak of any kind of Indian clothing, Sari is the first thing that pops in your mind. Incredible India with its incredible cultures has given birth to so many different styles of clothing, and Sari is the best creation of them all.

The word Sari, derived from the Sanskrit scriptures, means a strip of cloth that covers the female bodice. Whether it’s the famous drape of 5 yards or the typical Maharashtrian 9 yards navvari, every single design has a beauty of its own. Style, elegance, and grace are what quite perfectly describe the gorgeous Indian Sari.

The word style is more often than not, synonymous with the western culture and the kind of attire worn by the women in Hollywood. Long flowy gowns, furry jackets, strapless tops, hot pants, and the list goes on. These are trends to be followed and styles to be worn from time to time. And yes, I can proudly say, Indian women can carry these styles with panache. Our Bollywood actresses are living proof of it. Not to forget, our badass Priyanka Chopra, who’s rocking it in Hollywood.

But, nothing amplifies the beauty of the Indian woman more than a Sari. Styles spanning thousands of designs, ranging from the typical crimson red Benarasi wedding sari adorned by every bride on her special day to the simple yet elegant handloom sari from Bengal, to the heavy Kanjeevaram Silk Sari from South India, each sari is handcrafted with love to adorn the beautiful Indian woman. Award winning designer from Bengal, Sabyasachi Mukherjee, with his label “Sabyasachi” is getting saris in vogue. Famous for his intricate beaded and sequential work on the quintessential sari, his designer saris are the perfect fit for modern Indian women who wish to look stylish yet traditional.

And the best part, it’s the most body flattering piece of clothing, showing just the right amount of skin. According to me, a Sari is the most seductive yet elegant attire for any woman, anywhere in the world. And when paired with some mirrored jhumkas and a red Bindi, the woman is just a goddess to look at. Sari, the beautiful flowing drape, is the most unforgettable, stylish and a must-have in every Indian woman’s wardrobe. In a Sari, you just can’t go wrong!

The Independent Woman


How often have you sat across the table with your friends over a glass of drinks and spoken about a particular woman, and labelled her as a strong, independent woman? A woman who you may look up to and admire? Who are these independent women? Where do we find them? And lastly, how do normal women become ‘independent women’?

For a bunch of people out there, being an independent woman brings images of strong-willed working women, earning the big bucks, suited up in formals, sweeping board meetings in their pointy heels and basically defying the fact that a woman unquestionably needs a man to support her throughout her journey, her life. Some may say, these women or the independent women culture is only found in the metropolis, where liberal mentality prevails, where freedom of choice and choosing a career over marriage or children is given priority.

So let’s get down to business. What is defined as independence? According to the Collins Dictionary, independence is freedom from the influence of others; being financially self-reliant; capable of acting for oneself on one’s own. Independence is not partial. Independence does not pertain to a particular gender. Independence is a state of mind. If all this is true, why do we always conveniently prefer to stamp the label of ‘independent women’ on that category of single women who work at big corporates, but not on those majority of women who are married, have a perfectly happy family, have kids, take care of all the household needs and also, not to forget, earn and support the family financially?

I choose to call any woman, working or not, married or not, staying in the metropolis or not, an independent woman. Why? Because she is entitled to this right, a birth right. As a matter of fact, this is not a competition between a man and a woman and their constitutional right or some feminist propaganda. It’s just a take on the general mentality that if a woman is married, it is assumed that she automatically becomes dependent on her husband. I spurn such foolish talk. Moreover, I pity the men who become the scapegoats of such nonsense. Within a fortnight of marriage, men start to fatigue, thinking of themselves as multifunctional robots that have to take on the cumbersome responsibility of ATM machines, drivers, and shopping bag holders and may be, in certain scenarios, agony aunts to their wives. And what’s worse? The poor men fall prey to the typical Hindi phrase- Joru Ka Ghulam! Pity them!

So how do we produce more of such independent women? Well, there’s good news. Independent women are everywhere; your mother, your sister, your wife or your friends. These are all women who need to be nurtured, empowered and supported, not by men alone, but by the whole community. Educate women, teach them the basic life skills, teach them to drive their own vehicle and not be dependent on their fathers or boyfriends or husbands to take them around, push them to work and be financially independent, and teach them self-defense skills so that they can protect themselves when in danger.Teach them that filling bank slips and carrying out financial transaction is not just a man’s job. And most importantly, teach the men to not subdue, but to be that added support to the women in their lives to achieve their dreams and make an identity for themselves. It’s time to teach women to be independent. It’s time to remove the shackles of conservative, male-dominated, stereotypical mentality and provide a more definitive soul to women. It’s time to sculpt and chisel their being.