The Good, The Bad and The Ugly!

In the recent years, there’s always been a debate on what kind of content should children be allowed to view. Parents are always in a constant dilemma as to what exactly their children should be watching on television and for what duration. And with the kind of unfiltered content being popularly broadcasted, it’s quite puzzling for parents to cope with the advent of technology and the inevitable downside of bad parenting.

141215_a18747Let’s talk about children in the age group of 4-13 years of age. These years are what I would like to call, the cementing years for a child’s holistic development. Children are the most innocent at this age. They learn and inculcate all the good habits. These are the crucial years where children learn those important bits which are essential to form a strong core, a formidable human being. This is the same age where children can go horribly astray. Watching adult entertainment content (not vulgarity), non-educational and the worst of all, violent content can have a highly detrimental effect on their mental health.

In the recent past, I have observed that well-educated parents, with access to technology, are turning a blind eye towards the television viewing habits among their children. They make sure that their child gets the best of education in school, but what happens after school? I totally side by the fact that children are entitled to their time of television viewing, whether it is educational or entertainment. But what’s of utmost importance is monitoring what they watch. Watching entertainment programs on Cartoon Network or Nickelodeon helps the child relax his brain and also learn different languages and dialects. Watching educational programs on channels such as National Geographic or Discovery, not only opens the mind to knowledge that is not taught in their daily curriculum but also helps them boost their creativity.

I have observed among some relatives of mine who have kids between the age group of 6-12, are quite okay with their kids watching adult entertainment programs on channels such as Sony Sab, Star Plus or Colours. It’s deeply saddening to see that parents don’t realise that such kind of content has a disturbing and harmful effect on the child’s brain. It corrupts their innocent thought process.  There are often talks of children turning violent or aggressive as an after effect of viewing brutal content on television not meant for their intellectual understanding. There are even cases of children committing suicide or trying dangerous stunts as a result of exposure to vulnerable content.

We must realise that watching television has a significant impact on a child’s attitude and behaviour. Television programs have both positive and negative effects on a child’s moral formation. It is of utmost importance that parents as well as schools, educate children on TV viewing and what kind of programs they should be watching and what they shouldn’t. Grooming of the mind and soul happens at home and it is the responsibility of the parents to supervise and inculcate good habits among their children. Old habits die-hard and good habits go a long way. That’s the key!


Daily Prompt: Stylish



When we speak of Indian women, a montage of vibrant fabric and intricately decorated and ornamented pictures flash by. And when we speak of any kind of Indian clothing, Sari is the first thing that pops in your mind. Incredible India with its incredible cultures has given birth to so many different styles of clothing, and Sari is the best creation of them all.

The word Sari, derived from the Sanskrit scriptures, means a strip of cloth that covers the female bodice. Whether it’s the famous drape of 5 yards or the typical Maharashtrian 9 yards navvari, every single design has a beauty of its own. Style, elegance, and grace are what quite perfectly describe the gorgeous Indian Sari.

The word style is more often than not, synonymous with the western culture and the kind of attire worn by the women in Hollywood. Long flowy gowns, furry jackets, strapless tops, hot pants, and the list goes on. These are trends to be followed and styles to be worn from time to time. And yes, I can proudly say, Indian women can carry these styles with panache. Our Bollywood actresses are living proof of it. Not to forget, our badass Priyanka Chopra, who’s rocking it in Hollywood.

But, nothing amplifies the beauty of the Indian woman more than a Sari. Styles spanning thousands of designs, ranging from the typical crimson red Benarasi wedding sari adorned by every bride on her special day to the simple yet elegant handloom sari from Bengal, to the heavy Kanjeevaram Silk Sari from South India, each sari is handcrafted with love to adorn the beautiful Indian woman. Award winning designer from Bengal, Sabyasachi Mukherjee, with his label “Sabyasachi” is getting saris in vogue. Famous for his intricate beaded and sequential work on the quintessential sari, his designer saris are the perfect fit for modern Indian women who wish to look stylish yet traditional.

And the best part, it’s the most body flattering piece of clothing, showing just the right amount of skin. According to me, a Sari is the most seductive yet elegant attire for any woman, anywhere in the world. And when paired with some mirrored jhumkas and a red Bindi, the woman is just a goddess to look at. Sari, the beautiful flowing drape, is the most unforgettable, stylish and a must-have in every Indian woman’s wardrobe. In a Sari, you just can’t go wrong!

The Independent Woman


How often have you sat across the table with your friends over a glass of drinks and spoken about a particular woman, and labelled her as a strong, independent woman? A woman who you may look up to and admire? Who are these independent women? Where do we find them? And lastly, how do normal women become ‘independent women’?

For a bunch of people out there, being an independent woman brings images of strong-willed working women, earning the big bucks, suited up in formals, sweeping board meetings in their pointy heels and basically defying the fact that a woman unquestionably needs a man to support her throughout her journey, her life. Some may say, these women or the independent women culture is only found in the metropolis, where liberal mentality prevails, where freedom of choice and choosing a career over marriage or children is given priority.

So let’s get down to business. What is defined as independence? According to the Collins Dictionary, independence is freedom from the influence of others; being financially self-reliant; capable of acting for oneself on one’s own. Independence is not partial. Independence does not pertain to a particular gender. Independence is a state of mind. If all this is true, why do we always conveniently prefer to stamp the label of ‘independent women’ on that category of single women who work at big corporates, but not on those majority of women who are married, have a perfectly happy family, have kids, take care of all the household needs and also, not to forget, earn and support the family financially?

I choose to call any woman, working or not, married or not, staying in the metropolis or not, an independent woman. Why? Because she is entitled to this right, a birth right. As a matter of fact, this is not a competition between a man and a woman and their constitutional right or some feminist propaganda. It’s just a take on the general mentality that if a woman is married, it is assumed that she automatically becomes dependent on her husband. I spurn such foolish talk. Moreover, I pity the men who become the scapegoats of such nonsense. Within a fortnight of marriage, men start to fatigue, thinking of themselves as multifunctional robots that have to take on the cumbersome responsibility of ATM machines, drivers, and shopping bag holders and may be, in certain scenarios, agony aunts to their wives. And what’s worse? The poor men fall prey to the typical Hindi phrase- Joru Ka Ghulam! Pity them!

So how do we produce more of such independent women? Well, there’s good news. Independent women are everywhere; your mother, your sister, your wife or your friends. These are all women who need to be nurtured, empowered and supported, not by men alone, but by the whole community. Educate women, teach them the basic life skills, teach them to drive their own vehicle and not be dependent on their fathers or boyfriends or husbands to take them around, push them to work and be financially independent, and teach them self-defense skills so that they can protect themselves when in danger.Teach them that filling bank slips and carrying out financial transaction is not just a man’s job. And most importantly, teach the men to not subdue, but to be that added support to the women in their lives to achieve their dreams and make an identity for themselves. It’s time to teach women to be independent. It’s time to remove the shackles of conservative, male-dominated, stereotypical mentality and provide a more definitive soul to women. It’s time to sculpt and chisel their being.